To be Mysterious while Dating is Fun
It is a good factor while dating to remember to always keep a little bit back for you, especially in the beginning as this elusiveness is very becoming and makes you more attractive and interesting. It isn't good practice to give everything in the first instance, whether it is physical or mental as giving a little of yourself every time you meet is more exciting and fun in the long run. One night stands unfortunately are just that and if that is all you want then reading this won't be of any use to you.
Here are a few examples of what it takes to play the Elusive Card that will b of great benefit to you and your future dating partners.
- Play the 'I am busy game'. This shows you are an interesting person who doesn't procrastinate and have time to be bored. You have to get the balance right though. Don't make yourself unavailable but what busy means is that you don't ALWAYS answer your phone and you keep a few days in the week where you don't meet up with your new Lover until of course you both feel that you need to send that much more intimate time together. In the beginning though keep it cool without making it look cold.
- Don't offer full on physical attachment from day one, let the person get to know you slowly on a mental level as well as on a physical level as this will make you both have something new to look forward to. Going through the whole Kama Sutra on the first date won't leave you both with much to look for on the second date.
- Use wording like I am going to be busy but not give full details of what you are doing. Keep a diary and make it look rather full so the other person knows that the time you are making for them is valuable and not to be taken lightly. This way you won't be taken for a mug or for granted as it were. This is very important as familiarity breeds complacency and you don't want that now or in the future.
- Don't reveal everything about your personal life or your past on the first few dates or even in the first few weeks if you are going steady with someone. Try to keep the enigmatic game going and only open up to the other person slowly as you build trust and gain confidence in their liking of you.
